By the way, don’t forget that, as much as the neijia arts are about softness, they are /not/ about weakness. The softest movements still contain a huge force; actually, the “softer” a movement is, the “stronger” it is as well, provided that intent is present and correct.

Also, what little I currently understand about the internal arts informs me that what we seek to do is not merely to counter a large force with a small one (which is really too nebulous an idea to work with), but to specifically ‘help’ the opponent fall into a zone of vulnerability (all 3 major neijia styles do this differently, I think), and flow into an overpowering counter-attack along the foe’s lines of weakness. Sounds bullshitty, I know, but it’s really very doable.

Lastly, I am only a student and what I have said here may be partially or totally wrong, so take it all with liberal sprinklings of salt!